I don’t have a good Career, is it okay to survive in this world?

I’m blaming Medium for this who always asks me to tell more about myself to the world. So, here I go. Read at your own risk !!

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As I look back at the last 10 years of my life, I must admit that I haven’t made the progress I had hoped for. I know its too embarrassing to say it out loud but I believe in being truthful, both to my readers and myself. However, I am feeling lucky as you cannot see my face in this embarrassing moment.😶‍🌫️

I wonder sometimes how my alter ego is doing in the parallel universe? Have I become a Movie Star, a Brilliant Scientist, a Mesmerizing Dancer, World Traveler, Business Woman, an Engineering Scholar or the member of famous Kpop group, though my singing abilities are just beyond anyone’s imagination🤐.. still I have imagine it… Why?

Because these life roles have always been the dreams of my life. They ignite a fire within me and fill my heart with passion and excitement. The mere thought of pursuing one of these dreams in a parallel universe brings joy of fulfilment to me!! Later on, I began to think that whatever I may be doing in that parallel universe, it could possibly be even better than my current reality.

If not performing one of theses roles then what I am doing in this life?
Ohh! Hey! Don’t expect an easy answer …I am still working on it. Well, let’s just say I’m a bit of a multi-tasker. In my “trying 20 different things”, I have figured out above things and many more. Now exploring various passions to diving into the these new experiences, I’m keeping an open mind and embracing the journey of self-discovery.

What keeps me falling short? or we can say “Learn from me how to murder your career goals”? Enter the realm of my bad habits.

1. Trying everything, mastering nothing — that’s a bad habit I’ve fallen into. I remember there was a time I used to keep my “task plate” with full of “task menus”. Just like when you fill your food plate with a lot of food at a buffet and struggle to finish it all, I found myself in a similar situation with my daily schedule. I couldn’t share my time equally among all my tasks, resulting in exhaustion and depression. However, I’ve now adopted a “diet” for my tasks, where I’ve trimmed down my menus. Although the number of tasks is fewer, they nourish me, keep me healthy.
2. Consistency has been a recurring challenge for me — a persistent bad habit that hinders my progress. I often find myself starting strong but struggling to maintain a steady rhythm. But I keep pushing myself. To keep myself steady I have even written a blog on it. It was all about me.🥶 You can find it here.
3. Stubborn heart that thinks it knows best — a notorious bad habit that has caused me both frustration and missed opportunities. This rebellious organ of mine often insists on following its own desires, disregarding logic and reason. It clings to familiarity and resists change, even when it’s clear that embracing new paths could lead to growth and fulfillment. What I can say more, its a work in progress to guiding my heart towards embracing the possibilities that lie ahead.
4. Lady Hulk Syndrome — a peculiar bad habit that has left me feeling like a perpetually angry force to be reckoned with. It seems like even the tiniest inconveniences can trigger a fiery rage within me, transforming me into an unstoppable force of anger. Here is also a lot of work in progress to replace the fire in my mouth with the sweetness of honey.
   Through self-awareness, mindfulness practices, and a conscious effort to channel my emotions in healthier ways, I am learning to tame the Lady Hulk within.
5. Shiny Object Syndrome —whether it’s a captivating project, an exciting opportunity, or a fascinating idea, I find myself easily distracted, chasing after the next shiny object that enters my field of vision. This tendency to veer off course can lead to scattered focus and unfinished endeavors. However, I’m actively working on taming this syndrome by cultivating discipline or by simply conditioning myself to think about an ideas for next 10 days with same passion and excitement. If on 11th day, I feel the same for it. I will work on it.
6. Saving best for the last — I have the habit to save best for the last the way some keep sweet in their plate for the last bite. But when we reach to the last bite we get already full with all other spicy, salty food and cannot enjoy the last bite the way we wanted. It’s a reminder that life’s pleasures should be savored along the way, rather than postponed to an uncertain future. So, I am going to embrace the joy of the present now on indulging in each experience with gusto, rather than saving it for a moment that may never arrive.
7. Above 30 and Single —not a bad habit, but yes, being above 30 and single is undoubtedly a heinous crime against humanity! How dare I commit such an offense against societal expectations? Clearly, I deserve a place in Azkaban for this unforgivable act. This article won’t be enough for this topic perhaps I should write a book titled “The Outrageous Chronicles of Surviving in Your 30s without Succumbing to Marriage Pressure”. Oops!! I exposed my age here🫣. The womanhood vow to “never reveal our true age” is forgotten for a moment.

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I want to make it clear that I don’t want you to think of me as a bad or lazy person, even though I must confess that I can be a little laid-back at times. I also have some good habits that contribute to my overall well-being and growth.

1. Truthful to myself, never lie to self: one of my commendable habits is being truthful to myself. I never feel shy from acknowledging when I am not doing well or falling short. In those moments, I find solace in shedding a few tears, privately embracing my emotions, and gathering the strength to uplift and inspire myself.
2. Avoid negative self-talk : I don't remember now since I pursue this habit, but this and above is the extreme strength of mine. I firmly believe in the power of self-kindness and the impact it has on our well-being. Instead of criticising myself for small small things, I choose to embrace a more compassionate approach to overcome challenges with a confident and positive mindset.
3. Don’t give up even when the odds seemed stacked against me — This is the moment where you play “Unstoppable” by Sia. Like being the underdog in an epic movie, facing impossible challenges with a mischievous grin, I embrace the spirit of a determined hero, refusing to let setbacks or doubts deflate my superpowers. So, bring it on, universe! I’m ready to show you what an unstoppable force of awesomeness looks like!
4. Back up plan — Because let’s face it, life loves throwing surprises our way! While I am adding this into the list you might be thinking, “Hey, Manali, with all these skills, why haven’t you pursued a backup career?” Well, let me tell you, my backup plan lies in the art of home-making, daily scheduling, come up with multitasking, doing graphics, etc, etc or I maybe be saving my backup career as a secret weapon for when the world desperately needs a superhero with impeccable scheduling skills and a knack for home-making and effortlessly multitasking like a boss. Until then, let’s just say I’m honing my skills in the greatest training ground of all — life’s unpredictable and wonderfully chaotic journey!

Above is like only 10% of me, I am far beyond this article. It’s okay to laugh about above now, but I can’t deny those moments when I cried alone, feared but faced, went through sleepless nights, moment were I felt like I won’t see the morning next day, but I am still fine. I actually feel proud on myself that survived through many things. Now a days when I have thought that am I in depression? Then my mind be like : “Naah!! you have passed that phase. Watch a movie, eat your favorite food n sleep for 9 hours, you will be fine and rocking next day.” This is the easiest and most effective solution I have found for my bad days.

I don’t understand why do we need to sparkles at every moment of our life? I mean moon also doesn’t have it’s own light but have you seen how beautiful it look behind dark clouds!!!

Also, as if I’ve defied the laws of nature by not having a ring on my finger, is the time has really passed? I mean what’s wrong in waiting for your soulmate, even the God Vitthal is also still waiting for someone to arrive by standing on the brick.

And as for the career, maybe I am not doing good in people’s eye but I am well satisfied where I stand. I have my ideas and plans to work on and visit to the life’s surprising destinations. If I destined to fall I will make sure to fall foreword every time using each stumble as a stepping stone to propel me closer to my dreams. After all, even the humble turtle triumphs over the swift rabbit in its own time.

Here, I took a chance to accept and say it out loud that “I am not doing good in life” and I am perfectly fine with it. Success is not solely defined by career achievements, but rather by personal growth, happiness, and the relationships we foster along the way. So, I dare to dream big and embrace the boundless possibilities, knowing that in this parallel universe, I may just be rocking, dancing, researching, and achieving greatness beyond my wildest imagination.

While writing this article, I realized to survive in this world, a good career is not much needed but the passion is, that passion which will make you forget time, age and everything. So to keep my life’s adventure alive, I’ve made a pact with myself to take on monthly challenges. Whether it’s learning a new skill, exploring uncharted territories, or stepping out of my comfort zone, I’m diving headfirst into a sea of thrilling experiences.

If you’re looking for a meaningful way to support me on my journey, buying me a book that resonates with my aspirations would be a truly cherished gift.

So let’s raise a toast 🥂 to acceptance, my friend! I’m have confessed that I’m a masterpiece in progress. If you’re soaring higher than me, bravo! If you’re still figuring it out, afraid not, for we’re all on our unique paths. Whether we crawl, hop, or sprint, the beauty lies in the journey itself. Place your hand on your heart and feel the beating rhythm of resilience and courage. It’s a reminder that you’re alive, thriving, and capable of greatness.

Ever grateful, I cherish life’s blessings.!!
Thank you so much for making till here!!
You can comment your favorite quote to inspire me…n those who read this.
Have a Great Life ahead!!